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I’m Totally Impressionable

Alana —  July 19, 2012 — 2 Comments

Yikes!


Fellow blogger Joe Michaels e-mailed an article to me this week titled “How the People Around You Affect Personal Success.” The gist of the article is that the people you spend your time with will ultimately have an affect on your life’s successes. A few months back, I wrote a similar article that you can find here. However, Leo Widrich took this concept much deeper. I highly recommend you read his article!

Leo quotes Jim Rohn by saying: “‘You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.’ This quote is one of the most powerful ones that I keep reminding myself over and over again. I am the average of the five people I spend the most time with. Others around myself determine how I think, how I act, and ultimately how successful I will be.”

YIKES! Assuming this is true, consider the implications. Are these people ambitious? Optimistic? Pessimistic? Unmotivated? How are they affecting your outlook?

I plan to follow Leo’s lead and make a list of the top 5 people I spend most of my time with. I already know this is going to be an eye-opening task. I recommend you try it. Make a list of their names and their attributes (dependable, motivated, ambitious, optimistic, possess a victim mentality, entitlement, hopeless). According to Jim Rohn, you are the average of these 5 people. How are these people affecting your average?

The Secret to Getting Hired

Alana —  April 23, 2012 — 13 Comments

Want to know the secret to getting hired? Ready? It is Personality Testing. Seriously! The secret to getting hired is to know yourself well, and to know your potential client well. When I say the phrase, “Personality Test,” what type of emotion does this stir up in you? Fear? Curiosity? Skepticism? Most people I have discussed the concept of personality testing with have either responded with a strong curiosity or a strong abhorrence…Why? Below are a few of the responses I have gotten when I mention my own personal interest:

1). I don’t want to be defined.
2). I don’t want to be put in a box.
3). I already know the things I don’t like about myself. I don’t need someone else pointing it out too.
4). Tests don’t define me, God defines me.

These are all understandable responses. However, I’d like to propose a new perspective. By taking a personality test, it would enable you to:

Know yourself better.
Why do you respond in anger to certain experiences and not to others?
Know others better.
The communication breakdowns that take place between two people are often because they are communicating in two different styles. If you knew how to read others’ styles, you could tailor your communication to clearly deliver your message.
Know your marketable skills.
Let’s say you are asking for a raise, or looking for that new job – your boss is going to want to know why you deserve what you are asking for. By being familiar will your skills and tendencies, you will show up strides ahead of the other 75 people clamoring for the same position.

Not convinced yet?

Here are a couple things I’ve learned about myself through testing.
Strength. My mind moves rapidly from one idea to the next, making me good at brainstorming. Area for improvement. Because I often juggle so many projects, I am unaware of how my busyness is affecting those I care about.

Shelbe is a client of mine. Below, Shelbe shares of her experience working with me to learn more about her style.

Shelbe O.

In Shelbe’s Words.
Personality testing has always been more of a private interest for me, but this week I had the pleasure of going through my test results with Alana. Something wonderful and surprising emerged as she asked me questions and drew attention to some aspects of myself I would not have naturally been drawn to. Alana is gifted with insight and was a trusted advisor as we went through this process. With honesty and care she highlighted patterns to be aware of and helped me celebrate my strengths. This was a tremendously valuable experience and I would highly recommend Alana as a guide for discovering more about yourself.

Through our coaching process, Shelbe recalled some of her strengths she had forgotten. We also identified key areas that may cause tension in her relationships and discussed how to approach those areas from a different perspective.

If you are looking for direction or are simply interested in learning more about your personality style, I would love to assist you! Please contact me by e-mailing amokma@gmail.com. I will provide you with a free 30 minute consultation to determine if the service I offer would be a good fit for your desired outcome.

It’s your lucky day!
You can receive your own personalized test results as well as a one-hour individualized coaching session with Alana Mokma for $75.00 (valued at $90)! During our session, we will cover your own personality style, your strengths, areas for improvement, marketable skills and tips on how to communicate successfully with other personality styles! To start, simply e-mail Alana Mokma at amokma@gmail.com and write “Personality Test – I am interested” in the subject line. Alana will contact you within 48 hours to get the process started. For promotional pricing of $75.00 all purchases must be made by May 11.

Live outside of the Grand Rapids, MI area?
No worries! We can connect over telephone or face-to-face via Skype!

Look Out for Numero Uno

Alana —  October 27, 2011 — 14 Comments

Part 4 of series: How to Get What You Want

#4: Allow yourself some you time.

Have you ever heard someone say with disgust, “Aw, he’s just looking out for numero uno”? Typically this references a guy who is just out to serve himself and doesn’t care much about those around him; but he may be the smart one!

I have quite a few bad habits I am working to break. One of these is giving so much to others that I don’t allow time to get refueled myself.

Imagine this: You are about to go on a cross country road trip you have been planning for months. You fuel up, purchase a Diet Coke and Snickers, dial in your iPod to your road trip playlist and start crankin’ Starship’s hit “We Built this City.” You are ready to rock and roll. You make a few quick turns and soon you are on the highway. Yehaw! Not even five miles into your trip, you see someone on the side of the road standing next to an idle car. As you get closer, you realize, “Hey, that’s Uncle Bob! I better stop and see if he needs help.” You pull over and after a moment of discussion, you find that Uncle Bob ran out of gas. You offer to give him some of yours to help him get on his way. Fifteen minutes later you are back on the road again. Then, not even ten miles further and you spot another car parked along the side of the road. This time it’s your neighbor, Gary. He has a flat tire. Thankfully, you have the tools in your vehicle to help him get his spare installed. Gary is appreciative and offers to treat you to lunch at the next exit. You know you have a road trip planned, but Gary insists, so you oblige him. These road trip interruptions progress and you continue to give your resources until soon you are out of gas, money, food and energy! What good is a car if it doesn’t have gas!

To be successful, we need to be sure we are filling our own tanks and creating boundaries for ourselves. I am not saying to never help another person again, but to be aware of how much you give to others. We need gas to function properly. My gas comes from grabbing coffee at Starbucks with my friend Shelbe or sitting alone in my reading room with a fall scent candle burning and sipping hot tea. Sometimes my gas comes from breaking out into a jig in my bedroom. Whatever it is, make sure you are staying fueled. It’s okay to be selfish and look out for numero uno.

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Who Are Your Monkeys?

Alana —  October 25, 2011 — 5 Comments

Part 3 of series: How to Get What You Want

#3: Surround yourself with people that you find successful.

Have you ever heard the phrase “Monkey See, Monkey Do”? This is framed around the concept that if we spend enough time around a person, we will eventually begin to speak, think and act the same way.

I used to spend quite a bit of time around a friend who always had big plans for the things he wanted to do, but rarely could he make the jump from idea to action. He lost himself in project details and froze with his perceived enormity of the task. Overtime I found myself beginning to behave the same way! “I want to get organized and take care of this stack of paperwork; but to do that I’ll have to go down to the basement to find file folders. Once I am down there I might as well get that room organized first…” I had developed the habit of thinking instead of doing.

Eventually I realized how similar my behavior was to that of my friend’s. I had become him, just in Alana’s body! I began to distance myself and connect with others who were doing the things I wanted to do. Almost immediately my behavior changed, and again I was “owning life” instead of life owning me.

To be successful, it is important to be acutely aware of the people we surround ourselves with. Remember the ‘Monkey See, Monkey Do’ adage. Who are your monkeys?

How to Get What You Want: Tip #1

Alana —  October 18, 2011 — 11 Comments

Sassy Ladies: Alana's Vision Board

My next four posts will share what I have learned over the past year about success… and how to attain it.

#1: Set Goals

Problem: I have a tendency to make goals and write them on random pieces of paper. I stick the paper in my pocket, or in my purse or in a notebook and by the time a week has passed, I have misplaced the paper or even completely forgotten that I wrote the goals down.

Solution: Two weeks ago I had the opportunity to attend a class on How to Make a Vision Board. What is a Vision Board? It is a visual representation of the things you want in life – the things you want to do, have or be. The purpose of the board is to activate the Law of Attraction. This law states that “we attract into our lives anything that we give attention to, regardless whether it be positive or negative.” [1]

My Vision Board has images of sassy women, a section titled “What I love about Me” with words like “making waves” and “breakthrough leader” listed under it. There are other words listed such as “budding beauty,” “community” and a phrase that states “One drop changes everything.”

I plan to hang this board in the bathroom I use to prepare for my day. Every morning, it will be a visual reminder of who I want to be, what I want to do and what I want to have. I cannot wait to see how these things begin to play out in my life!

You may be thinking right now, “Seriously Alana? Just setting goals isn’t going to change my life.” Well, I challenge you – If you don’t know what you want, how will you know when you have attained it?

Creating collages not your thang? Try writing your goals on a sheet of paper and taping them to the wall beside your bathroom mirror, on your car dashboard or next your computer monitor. I bet you’ll begin to see changes within weeks.

1. The Law of Attraction. Webring, Inc. 2007.

Hey! I’m Smarter Than You Think.

Alana —  September 29, 2011 — 5 Comments

Hey! I am smarter than you think.

The past couple of years have been rough for me in my work place. It’s not that my working conditions are horrendous where I am forced to move 100 lb. boulders all day long from over here to over there, or that I have people screaming at me that I suck and they wish I would die, but these past couple years have still been rough. And this is why: I have learned the difference between working on tasks in my weaknesses and working on tasks in my strengths.

I was hired by my employer to do Interior Design. At this company, it means producing commercial floor plans, elevations, site plans and selecting interior finishes for mostly office and manufacturing buildings. I have learned that although Interior Design is what I went to school for, I am only decent at it; I am not great at it. I have found myself feeling more and more dumb because I don’t get the technical aspects of design. Although the project managers have been so kind as to teach me endlessly how roof pitches come together and why a building needs a concrete fire wall on one end and not the other, I just don’t get it. I started to feel guilty and think, “Man, did I pull the wool over their eyes! What did they see in me? I suck at this.” But then I realized, “I’m a great sales person. I’m awesome at selling people on ideas and getting people excited to take action!” I sold my employer on the idea of “me.” At the time, I believed in myself too, so I wasn’t necessarily selling a false product, but I sold them on the idea that, “Hey, if you hire me, I will make you happy and this is why…”

Over the past year, I have begun to learn what my strengths are and what my weaknesses are. I’m great with people and developing relationships. I’m not great at putting together price quotes for carpet goods. I’m great at having a vision for the future and inspiring others to come alongside me and take action. I’m not great at dissecting a website design and putting it all back together again.

If you have that voice inside of you shouting, “Hey! I’m smarter than what you think. I really can do a lot of things well!” I encourage you to take a look at your job or marriage or schooling and really discover where your strengths and weaknesses lie. If you can define your strengths and find a position that really utilizes those strengths, you will experience success.

“Awesome, Alana. You make a good point, but I have no idea what my strengths are or how to begin to find out.” Here’s a great resource to begin with: Strengthsfinder 2.0 by Tom Rath.

Does this resonate with you? Why or why not? I’d love to hear from you!

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Alana