In case you’re wondering what to do with your life, this is it. First, you start with something you love. If it’s singing, great. If it’s writing, awesome. If it’s playwriting or playing the trombone or developing video games, even better. Maybe for you it’s just hanging out with people, making them laugh or feel really good about themselves.Continue Reading…
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I’ve been on this winding journey where I go in and out of knowing what I want to do “when I grow up.” In some moments, I excitedly jot down notes or frantically text Josh and my girlfriend Terri saying “I’ve got it! I know what I’m supposed to be doing with my life!” Sometimes that thrill lasts only a couple hours. Then I second guess myself and think “Now, why on earth did I ever feel that was the right direction for me to move?” As a result, I am finding myself at a standstill. And with this standstill, I have moments of intense fear, anxiety and depression. I fear I will always feel stuck. I fear no matter what choice I make, it is going to flop. I fear I may put a lot of effort into a certain move, only to realize it wasn’t a good fit. It is in the moments I feel desperate that I get really scared. I don’t know whether to move or to stay and if I’m supposed to move, I have no idea in what direction.
Okay, I bet you have been just eagerly waiting since yesterday to find out what grabbed me in this new book I’m reading called Quitter: Closing the Gap Between Your Day Job & Your Dream Job [affiliate link]
Here it is: People tend to assume that finding their dream job is an act of discovery. A wild revelation they happen upon some day that feels a bit like an orgasm. Continue Reading…
Note from Alana: My friend Joe Lalonde introduced me to Kimanzi at the WordCamp conference I attended in August. When Kimanzi shared his story, I was amazed, motivated and encouraged. So much so, that I just had to share it with you! Thank you for sharing your Story, Kimanzi. I heard it at a time I needed it most.
Existing Is Not Enough Anymore
shared by Kimanzi Constable
Have you ever had one of those days when you just wanted to scream, cry, and then go back to bed? For twelve years this is how I felt everyday! Ok, maybe not everyday but the last few years have become worse and worse.
Here’s the problem I faced: I have no college degree and special skills. So how could I move onto to something better? Continue Reading…
I Can’t Give Up
shared by Kim Lincoln
1. Steady persistence in a course of action, a purpose, a state, etc., especially in spite of difficulties, obstacles, or discouragement.
2. Theology . continuance in a state of grace to the end, leading to eternal salvation.
My Orgasm of Purpose
written by Terri Spaulding
For nearly 47 years I didn’t question my purpose in life. I knew exactly who I was and what was expected of me.
I went from being someone’s daughter, to being a wife; a worker bee, and then a mom. My all encompassing purpose and focus became to raise good boys. And then seemingly overnight, they were no longer boys, but men, and beginning lives of their own. My daily routine, the one in which I knew my purpose, was no longer set by what was going on in their lives and I was no longer needed. At least not in the same way, and I panicked.
The panic I will describe as the feeling that I could no longer see my future. I was entering my second half of life and I wasn’t prepared. How had I not only failed to stay in touch with “me”, but also stopped paying attention to my passions? Who was I?
I met Nina through thenonconformistfamily.com. I immediately connected with her holistic approach on life. Nina recently released her e-Book titled Simple Natural Health and I am honored to have her share a few thoughts on what she has learned here!
When someone says health, the first thing that usually comes to mind is diet or exercise. But there’s so much more to wellness than food and activity. Nourishing your soul is just as vital to your well-being as taking care of your body.
Since realizing (and acting upon) this idea, I’ve enjoyed so many benefits: I feel strong. I’ve lost weight. My relationships are richer. And I’m pursuing a purpose that seemed so unclear until now.
Eating and staying active are still very important, but I’ve learned to pay attention to these areas as well:
When we sleep, our bodies repair themselves. So when we cheat ourselves on sleep, we’re really preventing our bodies from doing some important healing.
Rest during the day is important, too. Have you ever tried to keep pushing yourself to meet a deadline only to find that the harder your push, the harder it was to finish. Our bodies work in a natural rhythm, so try to remember that during the day. Take a brief break every ninety minutes or so.
Sometimes we just need to be alone. For introverts, like myself, this is especially true. It’s good to take a little time each day to just regroup and breathe. Take a walk, a hike, sit in the sunshine. Or, steal away to a room with a locked door or the bath to enjoy some solitude.
This goes right along with the solitude. For me, this entails going somewhere by myself, reading a bit of my Bible and just talking to God and listening. I need this. And when I can’t steal away I try to pray throughout the day. I give thanks, ask questions, surrender troubles and just try to stay connected.
A rich life is one full of meaningful relationships. Marriage. Extended family. Friends. All of these connections are vital for your well-being. Nurture the relationships you have and build meaningful new ones.
I think creativity is super important. No, it’s vital to our well-being. When I create, I feel better. It makes me more creative. It helps me to stay grounded. There’s just something about putting something beautiful out into the world, whether it’s a drawing, a beautifully presented meal or poetry.
I used to struggle with depression, feeling meaningless and unfulfilled. I knew that I was made for something special; I just wasn’t doing it. Seeking out my purpose has brought about the greatest change in my life. I’m much more aware of myself – my talents, strengths, passions – and how I can positively impact this world.
Creating a life that you love – one that makes you come alive and blesses others – can’t be done if you don’t take care of yourself. Take some time right now and figure out what habits you need to incorporate to begin nourishing your entire being.
What aspects are you ignoring that need more attention? What habits have you created that nourish your soul?
Nina Nelson is a wellness advocate, mama to four and wife to one. She writes regularly at Shalom Mama, inspiring others to live intentionally. She loves reading, snuggling and giggling at miniature horses. She just released her new book, Simple Natural Health, a resource that simplifies intentional wellness.
I met Josh and Sarah Gordon @ thenonconformistfamily.com through mutual friends. Although I have yet to meet these amazing Canadian peeps in person, we have connected on a deep level. Josh and Sarah directly and indirectly challenge me to look at my life and continually ask, “Is this really the life I want to be living?” If it’s not, then why I am still doing it?
I asked Josh to post on Perspective and this is what he had to say.
If you’re like me, you’ve never been on a cruise, but you’ve imagined it plenty of times!
I close my eyes and I’m there, amidst a gently rolling expanse of ocean, warm and salty sun on my face, delicious spreads of food, lots of cool people, stimulating wide ranging conversations, and free time to think and journal…
Sounds pretty awesome right? Now, what if you signed up for a cruise, expecting a similar experience, but darn it! The food sucks! The scrambled eggs are a cold. The pancakes? Gosh, there’s no maple syrup for ‘em! Pineapples and the fruit spread you’re craving are nowhere to be found… and don’t even get started on the coffee. It was probably brewed a week ago, and has been microwaved so many times you can smell the radiation.
And despite all your expectations, you have to share your room! That’s crap, man. Your roommate is hairy and snores a lot. To top it all off, the weather sucks, the deck of the ship doesn’t have nearly enough deck chairs, and you can’t for the life of you find out where to play shuffleboard. Wow. What a horrible cruise experience.
The thing is, you’re NOT on a cruise ship.
You’re on the USS Nevada, a 27 000 ton warship in 1943.
Suddenly, the quality of the coffee doesn’t matter as much. Your roommates are secondary issues. The weather doesn’t really factor into your day to day decision making – because you’re on a mission. You have a job to do – and others are relying on your ability to follow through.
Here’s the deal. If you expect your life to be a cruise ship experience, you’ll get frustrated. But as soon as you understand that your life is a mission, that you have objectives you’re working towards, that you’re meant to have a specific effect on the world- then the crap weather, horrible food, and obnoxious roommates don’t matter as much.
Life’s NOT a cruise, people. It’s a battle, and you have a mission. Quit looking for your lounge chair and leap into action.
It’s all about perspective.
Joshua Gordon is, well, a renegade. He’s openly defiant of normal, boring template living – and is deeply passionate about empowering families to live their best life. Hit him up on twitter, facebook, or check out The NonConformist Family.