At the end of 2013 I reflected on the year and acknowledged that I had been in fear. My first step to combating fear was to STOP PLANNING. (Click here to read my first post “Combating Fear: Part 1”) Instead of trying to coordinate every detail of each day in 2014, I am taking things as they come. In fact, instead of a resolution, I am focusing on one word for 2014: SIMPLE.
After last year, I do not want another year of chaos, stress or fear. Of course I can’t control the circumstances of life OR, as I’m learning, I can’t plan every detail. I need to do better at trusting God with His plan and being a good steward, wife, daughter, sister, friend and stranger along the way. I want this next year to be filled with great new beginnings, incredible blessings, positive habits, spiritual stepping stones and a lot of fun.
Now as I look ahead to 2014, I consider that my next step to combating fear has to be to simply START BELIEVING!
Since I was a kid I have known that I wanted to help people.
That’s why I volunteered to be a “Conflict Manager” at recess in 4th grade.
Since 9th grade I have known that I wanted to do something that would bring people together for a positive cause.
That’s why I became a student leader in our youth group and helped organize positive events at church, school and home.
Since I started college I have known that I wanted to work with adolescents.
That is why I began volunteering in youth ministry and mentoring teens.
Since my first full-time job I have known that I wanted to lead therapeutic groups and engage people in activities that would help them through support, healing and transformation.
That’s why I began training as a counselor.
What I know is that I have been given a passion for working with youth, a desire to help people navigate difficult seasons of life and the ability to encourage and lead people to create positive change in their lives. God has given me the gifts and abilities to carry out this calling he has instilled in my heart. I have already had many experiences that have been preparing me for my career as a counselor. The problem is that I have not recognized the difference between knowing and believing.
– to accept something as true, genuine, or real
– to have a firm conviction as to the goodness, efficacy, or ability of something
– to have (information of some kind) in your mind
– to understand (something): to have a clear and complete idea of (something)
– to have learned (something, as a skill or a language)
When I read the definitions of those two words, the difference I see is in a word: ACCEPT. In order to start believing in what I know about myself, I have to accept it. It is very easy for many of us to get trapped in lies about ourselves that either stem from hurtful words from others, comparing ourselves to other people or in my case fear of failure. So in order for me to start believing in myself as a counselor I am going to engage in some simple activities during the start of 2014.
List accomplishments: List all the accomplishments that I have related to my counseling career.
Affirmation cards: Write affirmations and verses on index cards that I can post around the house and read on a regular basis.
Volunteer: I’m going to start helping out with our youth group. Nothing inspires me more and reminds me of the work the Lord has called me to than giving my time to work with youth (Plus I have fun in the process!)
Try something new: Sometimes it’s easy to get in a routine or get comfortable with handling situations the same way. So I am going to step out of my comfort zone and try to do a few things differently in regards to growing my career.
Join me in enhancing your confidence this year and encouraging others to pursue their dreams, use their talents and enjoy daily blessings.
“For God did not give us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love and self-discipline.”
2 Timothy 1:7