Archives For Passion

But…HOW do I find my Purpose??

Alana —  February 4, 2014 — 9 Comments

In case you’re wondering what to do with your life, this is it. First, you start with something you love. If it’s singing, great. If it’s writing, awesome. If it’s playwriting or playing the trombone or developing video games, even better. Maybe for you it’s just hanging out with people, making them laugh or feel really good about themselves.

Terri Spaulding from Get Off Go inspiring hearts through a Vision Board workshop

Terri Spaulding from Get Off Go inspiring hearts through a recent Vision Board workshop

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You Matter. Period.

Alana —  October 20, 2013 — 2 Comments

Okay, here’s the deal. I believe YOU matter. I do not care what you feel right now. Please hear my heart in this. You matter. Your story matters, your presence matters. Regardless of what you may think, what society has taught you, or even what your family has told you. You matter. Contrary to common belief, your value does not come from your job, your income status or how many friends you have on Facebook. Your value does not come from how many awards you’ve won, how many church members you pastor or how much money you have in your 401k. It certainly does not come from whether you are divorced, single or married, whether you have children or zero children. None of that matters. Not in the sense that I am speaking, anyway.

If you believe that your value comes from these things, it does not surprise me. These messages are crammed down your throat 24/7. You are told that if you do not make a certain amount of income or if you are not a high-end executive, then you are not successful. You are told that if you do not have a rockin’ sexy bod like Matthew McConaughey or gorgeous face like Megan Fox, then you have little value. You have been bombarded with the message: “You have to be more like _________________ and THEN you will be important. THEN you will have something to offer.”

I am completely adamant in my disgust about these lies because these same messages have held me captive from reaching out and engaging in life… and it’s highly likely they are doing the same to you! Believing these lies has kept me from being me. As I mentioned in a previous post I have allowed others opinions to sway what I believe is right for me. The fear of failing my own standards and the standards others have set left me paralyzed. The opinions of others caused me to bow and sway like a tree on a windy day.

However, the truth is we are each here for a specific purpose. Think about this: Everyday that you hold back, you are depriving people who need you.

In the past six months I have experienced incredible breakthrough in realizing my own value. Without getting too churchy, the Lord has shown me that I have value simply because I am me and I am His creation. Ironically, I have been told this my whole life… it just never sunk in.

Bottom line:
You matter.
People need you.
Your presence makes a difference.

Your own healing is the greatest message of hope for others. – Julia Cameron

I Found Something!

Alana —  July 16, 2013 — 4 Comments

I’ve been on this winding journey where I go in and out of knowing what I want to do “when I grow up.” In some moments, I excitedly jot down notes or frantically text Josh and my girlfriend Terri saying “I’ve got it! I know what I’m supposed to be doing with my life!” Sometimes that thrill lasts only a couple hours. Then I second guess myself and think “Now, why on earth did I ever feel that was the right direction for me to move?” As a result, I am finding myself at a standstill. And with this standstill, I have moments of intense fear, anxiety and depression. I fear I will always feel stuck. I fear no matter what choice I make, it is going to flop. I fear I may put a lot of effort into a certain move, only to realize it wasn’t a good fit. It is in the moments I feel desperate that I get really scared. I don’t know whether to move or to stay and if I’m supposed to move, I have no idea in what direction.

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A Ball Pit Made Me Cry

Alana —  March 1, 2013 — 2 Comments

When is the last time you saw something that triggered a strong reaction deep within you? I’m talking about an undeniable heart-racing, tear-forming, ear-to-ear smiling joy.

This happened to me yesterday.

My girlfriend Terri posted a video on her site that I’d never seen before. I clicked on the link, not really knowing what to expect.


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The Reunion

Alana —  October 12, 2012 — 7 Comments

Okay, I bet you have been just eagerly waiting since yesterday to find out what grabbed me in this new book I’m reading called Quitter: Closing the Gap Between Your Day Job & Your Dream Job [affiliate link]

Author and Speaker, Jon Acuff

Here it is: People tend to assume that finding their dream job is an act of discovery. A wild revelation they happen upon some day that feels a bit like an orgasm. Continue Reading…

Your Story: Kimanzi Constable

Alana —  September 25, 2012 — 5 Comments

Note from Alana: My friend Joe Lalonde introduced me to Kimanzi at the WordCamp conference I attended in August. When Kimanzi shared his story, I was amazed, motivated and encouraged. So much so, that I just had to share it with you! Thank you for sharing your Story, Kimanzi. I heard it at a time I needed it most.

Existing Is Not Enough Anymore
shared by Kimanzi Constable

Have you ever had one of those days when you just wanted to scream, cry, and then go back to bed? For twelve years this is how I felt everyday! Ok, maybe not everyday but the last few years have become worse and worse.

Here’s the problem I faced: I have no college degree and special skills. So how could I move onto to something better? Continue Reading…

A Word from Max

Alana —  September 20, 2012 — Leave a comment

The below excerpt is taken from Max Lucado’s book: Let the Journey Begin.

The Fire of Your Heart
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The Speech

Alana —  August 2, 2012 — 7 Comments

“…And a last born will exhibit characteristics of charm, and a social and outgoing personality. They look for opportunities to have fun.”

I was on fire. It was 1999, and I was standing on stage, presenting my high school senior thesis on “Birth Order Psychology.” As I saw it, the parents and teachers were enthralled – hanging on my every word. Every few moments, a burst of laughter would erupt from the crowd in response to a witty comment I had woven into my speech. I was on cloud nine.

I had no idea then that thirteen years later, I would come full-circle and find myself passionately interested in a similar topic – personality styles and how our wiring affects our behavior and outlook.

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Man, the book Find Your Strongest Life by Marcus Buckingham has been instrumental in helping me to tap into my passions and the things that energize me. I have been on a quest over the past 18 months to dig in deep and experience healing in my life and to learn more about my purpose. There was a section in Marcus’ book – actually many sections – that seemed to jump off the page, but I’d like to focus on one today.

As I share my journey of self-discovery with others, I am meeting so many people who are feeling unfulfilled with life and in particular, they feel unfulfilled in their work lives. Some have used the words “trapped”, “imprisoned”, “dying”, and “hopeless”, to describe how they feel when they are at work. Some have chosen their paths based on what friends or family recommended, or chose a profession that would be the most financially beneficial. Others seem to just fall into their work roles and never had the confidence, energy, encouragement or support to strive for more. When I say “more” I don’t specifically mean a more affluent position; Instead, I mean something with meat. I am describing a job that you are excited about going to, one that allows you to feel like you are making a difference, a job that makes you come alive just talking about it, one that comes naturally to you because you are able to use your talents. This is what I mean by “striving for more.”

There is a Q & A section in Marcus’ book. In chapter 10, he is asked: How Do I Know If I’m on the Right Track?

How Do I Know If I’m on the Right Track?
I’m a great believer in your own inner wisdom, so my first answer is simply: You’ll know. Deep inside, you’ll know. But if you’re more of a checklist person, here are ten signs to watch out for. You’ll know you’re on the right track if:

o You surprise yourself by actually looking forward to going to work.
o You make detailed plans about how to do things better.
o You read books and magazines related to your work.
o You learn new skills quickly, as if you’ve done them before.
o You like socializing with your colleagues after work.
o You find yourself telling your non-work friends stories about what happened at work.
o You trust your boss.
o You’re invigorated, even at the end of a day of hard work.
o You feel a sense of contributing to something greater than yourself.
o You build back quickly from small setbacks.

Are these true for you in your current position? How would your outlook on life change and how would your relationships change if these were indeed true for you? WOW!

I am finding that as I career and life coach others, this list is quickly becoming true for me. I devour books about finding one’s passion, purpose and direction. I am quickly able to help others see problems from a new perspective that helps them to find solutions. I am energized after meeting with a client. And, just ask Josh or my friends how much passion spills out of me when I share new discoveries I have made! I want this same excitement for you.

If you are feeling stuck in your job, or unsure of what direction to go next, or can relate to feeling trapped and hopeless, I want to help you. Please connect with me at amokma@gmail.com and we can discuss how I can help you get unstuck. In the meantime, check out a few reviews on how I have helped others here.

You don’t have to continue living like this. There is hope!

I Was Here

Alana —  January 10, 2012 — 4 Comments

It’s drawing me in.

It’s calling my near.

There is something much bigger than myself and it is inviting me to change.

To risk.
To hope.
To live.
To love.

I want to leave a legacy when I leave this earth. I want people to know I was here.

I want to be remembered as a woman who:

Invited others to live their lives with Purpose
Challenged the status quo
Was a Warrior
Danced in the streets for no apparent reason
Accepted others for who they were, but inspired them to become more

What is one thing you want to be remembered for? List your “one thing” in the comments below:

Lyrics:
I wanna leave my footprints on the sands of time
Know there was something that, and something that I left behind
When I leave this world, I’ll leave no regrets
Leave something to remember, so they won’t forget

I was here…
I lived, I loved
I was here…
I did, I’ve done, everything that I wanted
And it was more than I thought it would be
I will leave my mark so everyone will know
I was here…

I want to say I lived each day, until I died
I know that I had something in, somebody’s life
The hearts I have touched, will be the proof that I leave
That I made a difference, and this world will see

I was here…
I lived, I loved
I was here…
I did, I’ve done, everything that I wanted
And it was more than I thought it would be
I will leave my mark so everyone will know

I was here…

I was here…
I lived, I loved
I was here…
I did, I’ve done, everything that I wanted
And it was more than I thought it would be
I will leave my mark so everyone will know
I was here…

I just want them to know
That I gave my all, did my best
Brought someone to happiness
Left this world a little better just because…

I was here…

I was here…
I lived, I loved
I was here…
I did, I’ve done, everything that I wanted
And it was more than I thought it would be
I will leave my mark so everyone will know
I was here…